Catholic Care a religious adoption society has won a High Court battle to allow it to continue refusing to place children with gay couples.
Jonathan Finney, head of external affairs at gay rights charity Stonewall, said: “It’s unthinkable that anyone engaged in delivering any kind of public or publicly funded service should be given licence to pick and choose service users on the basis of individual prejudice.”
What Johnathan fails to see, is that the prospective parents (gay or otherwise) are NOT the “service users” here (and what a horrendous term that is to use in this context), the important person is the child awaiting adoption. It is the child that has the right to be placed with good parents, any rights the parents themselves have are secondary.
The problem with pressure groups like Stonewall is that even if gay couples were considered for adoptive parents, the group would still cry foul if an arbitrary quota of gay couples weren’t allowed to adopt!
Whilst each case should be judged on it’s own merits and I’m sure some gay couples will tick all the boxes for material and physical care of a child they face a huge stumbling block when it comes to the child’s mental care.
It’s actually not the fault of the prospective gay parents themselves, the problem comes from peer pressure. Puberty is a hard enough time in a child’s life to start with, trying to fit in and make your place in the world, add the uncertainty that comes from being adopted and it becomes even harder.
Added into the mix, a child at that age is suddenly confused by all the chemical changes in their body caused by their developing sexual maturity which makes homophobia rife in that age group. It doesn’t matter how politically correct our children are brought up, you’re dealing with primal forces which define their actions during that period.
It’s going to take a very strong child to deal with all that plus the unfortunate stigma of having gay parents. Without the benefit of hindsight, how can we judge which chilren will be able to cope and which won’t?
If we can’t be sure, is it right to add another element of risk or should adoption agencies stick with a more natural family make-up?